Humble and Happy

Humble and Happy 

If you look in the dictionary the definition of Humble has many different meanings. One definition that caught me: marked by meekness or modesty, not arrogant or prideful. I had always thought I was a humble person !

I grew up in a lower income family and lost my dad at sixteen. I  worked hard to put myself through college and when I met my husband I  swore my child would struggle less than I did, he would not have student loans and wouldn’t know what it’s like to want things we couldn’t afford.

I always worked, at 13 I got a job with the local orthodontist it was he who suggested I  pursue a career as a Dental Hygienist.  His words were you can be a mom and set your own hours. Immediately following high school, I decided that dental hygiene school was worth a try. I got a job right out of college and after the first year of working full time I remember the joy of booking my first ever caribbean vacation. I have worked full-time for the past 22 years and have been fortunate to travel , we joke our nine year old has more mileage on him than my husband.

Being a workaholic has always been my nature,  I returned to work just 10 days after giving birth to my son.  I have always been a people pleaser and loved my job as a dental hygienist but I was also embarking on breaking out of the box and taking my career into other areas of the dental world. When I returned to work I moved to a management position in my office and we were starting to make some changes to bring the practice to greater heights.

I was working full-time, being a mom , we had no financial worries and I was happy, most of the time. My stress level was obscene. Although I know I created a lot of my own stress. I mean, I am a bit of a control freak. In my line of work it’s a good thing . My employer knew I would get the job done, she would have less stress and I made good money. My son was able to have whatever he wanted and not necessarily needed. We bought a home, went on vacation , had tangible items , money wasn’t an issue and after many failed secondary fertility attempts realized that we were blessed.

One day about a year ago an old friend and co-worker said to me you are not the same person you were when we worked together years ago. I was confused , baffled and looked at her with a question mark. She looked at me and said you lost who you were, you are not always smiling, your always running , your snide to people and you brag. Stunned I brushed her off and sort of severed ties with her, after all I was the same person or so I thought.

Fast forward to this past winter, After months of stress and being unhappy at work my husband and I decided that as much as I loved what I did it was time to move on. The decision was not an easy one, My salary contributed to the running of the house and our extras. We decided we could make it work, I would work on building my own business and go back to clinical hygiene. Until it all fell into place, our lifestyle would change. Was I ready for it? I don’t think one is ever ready to make life altering choices but I finally realized the stress was going to kill me. I was working hard so my son didn’t have a want or need, but if the stress killed me no one could buy him a new mother.

About three weeks after I left my job I received a call from my friend she wanted to meet for lunch. I was elated to hear from her as I missed our friendship but was to stubborn as was she to reach out prior. She had heard what happened and wanted to make sure I was alright. After having been home for 3 weeks , I had already started to make adjustments to our way of life. After a delightful lunch date, she looked at me and said I see traces of who you used to be . I looked at her and laughed and said I have been Humbled!

I won’t lie that the past 3 months have been a hard adjustment. We live on a budget, my son doesn’t get everything he wants, and  I am still looking for work.  In the past 22 years I have never had to worry about finances , the past 9 years I have never had to say NO to our son!

This past week we were invited to Delaware with my sister and her family. We had an amazing vacation. Family, Fun, Sun, Sand and lots of laughs. For the first time in weeks I didn’t cry.  For the past few months I would cry over money, cry thinking I should have lived with the stress, cry that I am letting my son and husband down. As I sat the last day on the beach I tried to think what besides my feet in the sand could have changed this past week,  my concerns were all still there. Then it hit me…

Feet In The Sand one of my favorite places

Feet In The Sand one of my favorite places

For the first time in 9 years I was actually on vacation. I wasn’t on vacation and on call. I wasn’t checking messages or stopping by the office for mail. I didn’t have to worry which Dr I would call since both  were out of town. I didn’t have to worry about payroll getting done, I was on vacation and I didn’t have to carry my phone incase the service called.  I didn’t have to worry about anything but spending time with my family! For that I have realized I am Humble and Happy!

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Valentines Day Another Day to Make A Memory

With today being Valentines Day today like any other is another day to make a memory, YET this day I feel makes more memories then we realize.  Valentines Day is a day that teaches little boys early how to treat women and also gives families another reason to celebrate our love for each other.

As I have written time and time again I love themes, parties and any excuse to make a memory. Valentines Day allows all of that and more. I am not speaking of the commercialism of the holiday, I am speaking of time to tell each other you love them. It is also an opportunity to take the time to do something special for your special someone be it friend, teacher, babysitter, or lover!

Main Man has been excited since we ordered POKEMON valentines months ago for his friends, and was relived when I said it was time to FINALLY open them. My son has taken deep pride this year in his valentines and his writing is very clear in addressing them and signing his name. He even made sure to include his best buds with who he does not go to school with and friends who are not in his class along with special chocolates for them as well. He is learning early and I am one proud mama.

POKEMON Valentines and Treats

In our house we celebrate  valentines day with a family dinner that we choose together. This year we have  all chosen pizza since I have to work and it is something we all like. (Friday night I will surprise my big main man with homemade white clam sauce). Big Man is usually on dessert duty and I am curious as to what he will come home with tonight. I have prepared some chocolate covered strawberries which is always a family favorite.

Chocolate Covered Strawberries a Family Favorite

I am a firm believer that a gift should be given that comes from the heart so I took direction from little love as to what he wanted to give his cousins, grandmother, and aunt for valentines day. He asked me to get his cousin Sammi a build a bear gift card, mind you Sammi is almost 17 so I think there is a slight hidden agenda there. Although she did tell him that they could go together if she ever got one. He asked me to take him to get Grandma a cookbook because she cooks for him and should be a chef. He said for his cousin Meira we should get her a bigger closet and more places to hang her clothes so she can respect her room.  He suggested we get everyone chocolate. Nicholas was quick to remind me that I should get  dark chocolate for grandma because that is what she likes.  I was sure to make a visit to 5th Avenue Chocolate Works for some homemade goodies for everyone.

Homemade Chocolate from 5th Avenue for Meira

When its time to exchange our valentines I look forward to everyones smiles of joy as they open there gifts from main man. Main Man has told me that I  am his valentine and he had been shopping with Daddy but it is a big secret! All I keep saying is he is all I want and he makes everyday valentines day.

Build A Bear For Nicholas & Sammi

Gifts for our Babysitter complete with MANI/PEDI

 

KIDZ BOP 23 For Nicholas

 

New memories will be made today from the moment we wake up and so the memory making begins.

Main Street Mama hopes that you and your family have a happy valentines day and make wonderful memories together!